The Engagement Band

I've never been the type that takes the conventional road to life and situations. I can basically thank my mother for that because she did two things that altered my life. The first was when she played "Mas Que Nada" by Sergio Mendes & Brazil 66 on the record player. I wanted to be involved in music and art for the rest of my life. The second was that she was such a dysfunctional parent that I had to basically raise myself for the rest of my life. It also doesn't help being a light skinned Black kid in such a turbulent time like the seventies. Since I basically listened to any type of music and was more open minded, I was a total outcast. I honestly don't think that I've ever experienced total acceptance as person until I was 33.

Because of that, I basically follow a different road than most people. I mention this because I seem to confuse people about my current relationship situation. I say in my profile that I'm married and I always call Marta my wife despite the fact that I'm not offically married. It also throws people off because I wear a gold wedding band on my finger even though I'm not married. There's a reason for that. Marta does wear an engagement ring. She better because I'm still payin' on that mothafucka' and she better get the milage out of that Bling. People can look at her hand and see that she's engaged. I wanted to do the same thing so I bought a plain gold band and a seperate wedding band that I will change into during the ceremony. I wear it to show that I'm engaged as opposed to constantly have to say it all the time. A lot of people like the idea. I actually hope that it catches on in a way. I was also crazy enough to think that it would show that I'm taken and that women wouldn't hit on me. No dice. They still do. I can never figure that out.

So let's recap. Despite Marta being my fiancee, I will always call her my wife even though we won't be getting married until 2008. We practically live as husband & wife and worry about the usual stuff. In our minds, we're married.............as long as Marta has this gun to my head. KIDDING!!!!!!!!!!!